I am sure parents everywhere will ream me for this, but here it is: I really don’t like it when little boys stare at me when I am showering or dressing in the locker room.
The inevitable situation is this: practice has just gotten out. The locker room is a busy place because the public has arrived with kids in tow for rec hours and lessons. The moms with more than one child always seem to have their eldest son ready to go first, so that child is always left with nothing else to do but stand and stare at me (or any other woman within range, I imagine) while they wait for mom to suit up their sibs. Of course, I am either in the shower or just about to put clothes on.
Do I mess up my schedule to wait for the kids to clear? That doesn’t seem fair somehow, since I am in the women’s locker room. Do I try a “dress under towel” manuever? Again, that will slow me down. Relocating isn’t usually an option because after the majority of practices, locker rooms are jammed. And the majority of facilities now seem to offer open shower areas sans “dressing booths.” To date, my only “solution” has been to minimize the view by turning my back to the child in question, if that’s even possible.
Not only is it uncomfortable for me, I wonder about a lot of things. Foremost is protocol. I get that there are a lot of single moms who can’t send their sons with dad into the men’s locker room. Or maybe the family locker room is full. And, just to be clear, I’m not talking about male babies or toddlers. They still seem too caught up in things like dust motes in sunbeams, their toes, etc. than to want to watch some master swimmer change. No, it’s the boys who are motoring around on their own steam, are speaking in full sentences and dressing/undressing themselves that seem a tad too old to be mixing with adult females in various stage of undress. Isn’t there some other way to accomodate everyone? Do we need cartoon-dedicated big screen T.V.s in women’s locker rooms?
Of course, I don’t have children, so I have no child development sense of what’s appropriate at what age. But I can’t help but feel a bit gross when some boy has a fixed 10-minute stare lock on me. What are they thinking?!? Am I scarring this child for life? Is he going to grow up with some weird fetish for goggles? Perhaps most importantly, do I really want to know?
Until next time,
Rebecca, swim evangelist